It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree.
The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity,
covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.
Rose Kennedy
A day when something happened that really really irritated me.
It was the proverbial "final straw".
Later that evening I happened upon this quote.
It really made me stop and think.
I have to agree.
Well, I guess I don't necessarily have to, but I do.
I realized that my reaction to this "conflict" was really not positive.
I'm not beating myself up about how I reacted, but rather, celebrating my recognition of this negative behavior.
I found an alternative way to handle these situations in the future though.
So, today I'm asking you this.
When situations arise that hurt and frustrate you, are you able to react in a positive way?
Do you believe that time heals all wounds?
Do you believe that our defense mechanisms kick into high gear to protect our minds and hearts?
Have you ever had a person that you trusted unconditionally hurt you in such a way that you thought you might never trust again?
Just thinking...
5 comments:
Oh there have been times no I didn't react in the best way to very hurtful things...but then I had quite a few last year and over the last few years...that I DID...and I was so proud of myself...don't beat yourself up...we are never perfect...but we have to pick ourselves up and move on...I think mostly you live with the pain sometimes always....and you learn to live with it in a better way...I think with some things time does heal it...but others maybe not you know...
My answer probably didn't help...but there it is:)
Love Rose Kennedy.
I think it depends on just how very deep the wound is as to how quickly it will heal. Some take much longer than others.
Yes I have trusted and been hurt so bad....but in time, a whole lot of time, I think I simply am to the scar stage. Thinking about it hurts but only like a bad bump on your funny bone.
oh boy. Yes I have. And over my lifetime there has been more than one person. But if God has been teaching me anything it has been about forgiveness. I'm so sorry you were hurt. You will heal. You will. It might take awhile.
oh boy. Yes I have. And over my lifetime there has been more than one person. But if God has been teaching me anything it has been about forgiveness. I'm so sorry you were hurt. You will heal. You will. It might take awhile.
Well I have PTSD so yes, I react too much usually to alot of triggers.
My internal instinct is to be suspicious of everything and avoid unsafe places or people.
The person I trusted the most that has hurt me the most was this past year, my mother and father. Without cluttering your blog with such a mess in our family, she really, really has hurt me so much this year that I don't think I will ever connect with her again, no matter what. I just won't be able to. Not that I don't forgive but I will never forget the things she has done to me this year.
My son is on that list next. He was always a troubled child but he really hurt me this year too. Time doesn't heal all wounds. Maybe some but those really over the top stressful events will never heal. You just learn how to cope with the triggers. I learned that most of my family were toxic relationships and I'm better off without them in my life.
My husband is the only one I trust.
Jennifer
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